#TarotDaily – Judgment Rx + King of Swords (Guardian)

TarotHunter’s Salt Rounds:

  • It’s time to let go of the need to judge and focus on the darker side of life.  Instead, try connecting with the world around you; the wisdom of nature.  Listen to the messages being offered to you by the divine.
  • You may be intelligent, rational and a great communicator but you can also be harsh and judgmental, especially about yourself.  Crows are very canny creatures who are quick to learn and smart about their environment but don’t waste time judging.  Maybe you should take a page from their handbook and release some of those inner critics that judge so harshly.
  • You may be a master at what you do but your rational, logical approach to matters can come across as harsh and cold.  As the saying goes, judge not lest ye be judged  Maybe it’s time to incorporate a more humane, approachable, less buttoned up persona.

#TarotDaily – 9 of Coins + The Empress (Grand Luxe)

Tarot Hunter’s Silver Bullets:

  • Wealth and possessions may not cure life’s ills, but it can sure make you feel more secure & protected.
  • Be cautious of letting your possessions, wealth & status isolate you from the world around you. Sometimes a palace can be a prison too.
  • Open yourself up to other worlds, experiences, and viewpoints. Let yourself be more vulnerable and less protected by your things. At the end of the day, possessions provide cold comfort.

#TarotDaily – 9 of Coins Rx + The Empress Rx (Grand Luxe)

Tarot Hunter’s Salt Rounds:

  • Sometimes we become possessed by our possessions only to realize they provide no comfort, no succor to a wounded psyche.
  • We all develop self-soothing techniques, but retail therapy and buying your way to serenity is no longer effective.
  • What truly makes you feel as though you have it all or are at a place in your life that offers satisfaction and contentment? Today you might want to explore this concept. You might learn that wealth & possessions do not nurture your body & soul. They don’t make you as happy as you’d once hoped.

#TarotDaily – The Fool + 2 of Swords (Grand Luxe)

Tarot Hunter’s Silver Bullets:

  • While child-like faith and belief in oneself are often beneficial, sometimes making decisions without seeing all the facts can just be foolish.
  • Deliberately veiling one’s eyes to reality can lead to the inmates running the asylum.
  • Sometimes things must fall into the realm of the absurd before we can see what is right before our eyes.

#TarotDaily – 6 of Swords+ 2 of Swords Rx (Grand Luxe)

Tarot Hunter’s Salt Rounds:

  • Moving forward requires seeing thing clearly. Make sure to remove your blindfold or you may stumble more than necessary.
  • Strategic retreats are often beneficial and crucial to further growth. Don’t let yourself be blocked from seeing the truth in your current situation.
  • Wariness and guardedness can be effective defense mechanisms. They can also prevent you from seeing opportunities and paths that lie ahead. Sometimes letting your guard down is beneficial & healthy; the right move.

#TarotDaily – The Lovers + Queen of Swords (Hudes)

TarotHunter’s Silver Bullets:

  • Choices in life are what make us who we are. If you wish to be a smart, independent, practical, nurturing person then choose paths that reinforce & support these traits.
  • If a loved one tries to coerce you into decisions or a lifestyle that undermines your integrity and autonomy, use that sword and cut him/her loose.
  • The world does not always embrace smart, quick-witted, independent-minded people. If that is the kind of person you wish to be, prepare yourself for some solitary moments. Remember that it’s always your choice to remain true to yourself. You may not like all the consequences of that choice but you also have the freedom to change your path at any time.

#MeToo

I’ve been following the media coverage of Harvey Weinstein and resulting #MeToo campaign with a lot of interest over the past few days. It has clearly revealed that this is a conversation that has long needed to occur. Women already know just how many of us have been harassed, victimized, assaulted, marginalized and raped. Men are the ones who seem surprised by these numbers.

When I was attending John Jay College for my MA in forensic psychology, I once wrote a paper on rape & date rape. I looked at the psychological impact each had on survivors as well as how societal responses differed to both types of assault. In many instances, survivors of date rape expressed feeling more blamed and less support. They often blamed themselves and questioned whether they had “asked for it”. This mindset shows the fundamental misunderstanding we still face about rape – it has nothing to do with sex! Let me repeat that – RAPE HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH SEX! Harvey Weinstein isn’t a sex addict, he’s a sexual predator. He used sex to impose his will upon unwilling women. If rape is the result of a desire for sex then I would expect there to be no sexual assaults of those society has deemed no longer sexually viable or attractive. That does not appear to be the case.

I have no doubt that physical attractiveness can play a role in why someone has been put on a sexual predator’s radar but I don’t believe it’s because the predator wants sex. It’s because it fulfills some need in them to impose their will upon others, especially those who might be seen as a “catch” by society. I would bet that if one caught some of Hollywood’s male actors in a private moment, we might learn that they are just as harassed and preyed up on by those in power.

I will admit that by the time I completed that paper I was suspicious of all men and looked at them with rage. I’m rather impressed that I didn’t attack any men during that time period.

One of the reasons I had an interest in the topic of rape is because I have been raped, sexually harassed, hooted & hollered at as well as molested many times over the course of my life. I know how it feels to have people look at you as though you brought this upon yourself. I know what it feels like to think you did something wrong and your actions triggered the assault. I know how it feels to tell someone what happened to you and have them either disbelieve your or, worse, believe you and do nothing. I’ve been afraid to sleep in my own home because I wasn’t sure if I’d wake up to find my molester assaulting me again.

I’ve never been silent about these assaults. I might not share the details with everyone I know but I’m open about having been through these experiences. Many times I fought back, either verbally or physically. In my youth I was gifted with the nickname The Nutcracker because if boys touched me in ways I didn’t like (such as trying to cop a feel or snap a bra strap), I kicked them in the nuts. Needless to say I wasn’t very popular with the boys. When I first began working I experienced harassment from some of the men in charge. This ranged from the 60 year old warehouse manager who kissed me against my will when I was 13 to the “dirty old man” comments from a 60+ year old man when I was in my 30s (you know the type – “why don’t you sit on my lap and we’ll talk about what comes up”).

I tolerated the comments for a while because, while I wouldn’t say it was harmless, those types of comments didn’t seem threatening to me. At least not until I saw those same behaviors aimed at younger (in some cases adolescent) females. Then I began commenting. My responses ranged from subtle “jokes” about how apple seeds are poisonous and would be so easy to slip into someone’s food to statements about how “crazy” and violent my hubby could be to more straightforward comments like “you couldn’t get it up if you used a crane” or “if you touch me I’ll push you down the stairs”. These often got brushed off as jokes but they achieved the desired results. I was left alone. Unfortunately there wasn’t much I could do to stop it with other females. Too many laughed and treated it as a joke and the executive director was guilty of similar behaviors. I’d like to think that I made a difference but in truth I’m not sure.

I drew two Tarot cards from the Darkness is Light deck to get an idea what I should write my next blog post about (it has been a while since I’ve updated). I drew the 3 of Blades Rx and The Empress Rx. To me that spoke of sharing times I’ve felt betrayed, heart sore and hurt; times I’ve been left to fend for myself rather than being nurtured, cared for and protected. So here is it – as much as I hate to jump on bandwagons, #MeToo