This is the second time I’ve drawn this card this week. I guess I need to listen to its message more closely. Looking at the two “ghetto smurfs” (I love this phrase from the Gone in 60 Seconds movie) on this card the one thing that strikes me is that they’re together but not together. They aren’t touching each other. The girl has her arms wrapped around herself and the guy, with his foot wrapped in a bandage, is reading what appears to be an arrest warrant. A 40-ounce bottle rests in the snow alone with other pieces of litter. The girl seems to be glancing hopefully at a closed door nearby while the guy seems wrapped up in himself. There is a loneliness and sadness to this card that goes beyond their apparent poverty. They seem so isolated and disconnected from their world and from each other. All one would need to do is reach and touch the other and offer comfort but their body language suggests that not going to happen.
It seems that as a society we are more disconnected and isolated. Although we have perpetual access to each other via cell phones, text messaging and online social media sites, we rarely connect on a physical and human level. How many people have hundreds of Facebook friends and yet would consider themselves lonely? How many times do we yearn for a simple hug or comforting touch on the arm and instead we are offered a plethora of platitudes on Facebook? I think this card serves as a reminder that all we really need to do is reach out and touch somebody’s hand (to quote the song).
I’ve recently found myself pondering this tendency in myself. Over the years I’ve lost contact with many friends. Some of this is simply the natural process we often go through as we grow and change, realizing we no longer share interests. Some of if is because I feel as though I no longer have anything to offer in a relationship. My world is so narrow that all I have to talk about is caring for the in-laws (okay, that’s a bit of an overstatement but not much). I also have a tendency to feel as though I’m interrupted people’s lives when I call them. I think I need to make more of an effort to keep connected with friends and loved ones. If they can’t talk to me then I have to hope they’ll feel comfortable enough to let me know. Of course this says more about me than anything else.
On another level I think the reversed nature of this card is telling me that even though finances are tight and we are in a physically restrictive environment (we just don’t have the freedom to come and goes as we’d like), hubby and I do have each other. We do support each other. We try to give each other much needed breaks and work through our frustrations. It’s not easy but we manage. We may not be in the best shape financially but at least we are there for each other and care for each other. Our shared experiences, even the miserable ones, have created a strong, enduring bond. That’s the important thing right now.