Ah, the Queen of Cups, my old adversary. She and I have come a long way over the last two years or so. I have come to appreciate her gentle strength and loving, supportive nature. Growing up I associated her type of energy with emotional manipulation, weakness and neediness. I was unable to see her nurturing and loving energies in a positive light. It is only as I’ve come to need these energies in my own life that I’ve begun to appreciate and embrace her.
Looking at the Art Postcard Queen of Cups I was struck by the sense that she is telling “Cry on my shoulder. It’s okay. I’ll comfort you and help you through this.” Her outfit even looks as though its collar would serve as a creditable napkin with which to dry one’s tears. She seems supportive but not one easily overwhelmed by emotions. She understands and realizes that every so often, we all need a good cry. It enables us to cleanse and purge the pain that might otherwise paralyze us.
The Whispering Queen of Cups offers a different perspective. She bobs in the water, beneath a full moon, holding a chalice in one hand and a white orb in the other. She seems to be offering us the key to our intuition, our inner wisdom and our emotional nature. She shows that we can be part of that world without being subsumed in it. We have the ability to tap into our deep, vast emotional wisdom without allowing ourselves to get swept away by it. At the same time the water surrounding her reminds us that sometimes it’s easy to allow ourselves to drift along on the tides of our emotions, eventually losing our way because we let ourselves lose control.
I think these lovely ladies are telling me that my lesson today is that sometimes it’s okay to let myself be emotional about the things I’m dealing with in my life. Sometimes being stoic, strong and silent is helpful but sometimes it just bottles up things that need to be expressed. Right now I could certainly use the Queen of Cups shoulder to cry on but I find it difficult to let go and cry. Partly because what I’m dealing with is tough but a lot of people are dealing with difficult situations in their lives. I feel as though my issues and problems are just not that serious. And perhaps that is my biggest challenge – believing that my feelings are valid and deserve to be recognized. At least I do have my hubby, mother, sister to provide emotional support. My friends are supportive too – the issue is that I still feel guilty crying to them. Perhaps that is what the Queen of Cups reversed is reminded me of today – that if my friends cannot provide some emotional support when I need it they are close enough to let me know that. It’s not a sign of weakness on my part and I would hope they feel able to ask the same of me if the occasion ever calls for it. Another lesson I am learning to integrate into my life.